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well this guy calls me and tells me he's friends with a friend of mine and she gave him my number and he said he wanted to be friends with me, but by his way of talking I had a feeling I didn't like so I just said not sure about that, but thought of giving him a chance for now even if I felt the uncontrollable need to grind my friend's ass into hamburger put it in her big mac and make her eat it, and he asked me if I have a boyfriend and I said yes hoping that would discourage him if he would ever think of trying, but then he started asking things like how I look like if I'm beautiful if it's a serious thing between me and my boyfriend if I wanted to get to know him better and all that damn crap. now ok, I had my good ways to tell him off quickly enough, but still he has my number and he could call again. I don't mind that, I told him off once and I can do it again if it's needed, but what really makes me so damn fuckin angry is that some people give your number to whoever they like without fuckin asking, and then you'll have these damn desperate weirdos around until you change the bloody number. that's useless stupid crap and some people should just fuckin! stop it!
well sorry I just needed to vent about it, things like this really piss me off, plus I didn't trust that guy at all. oh well.
Lory I'm glad you chewed him out, and now it's time to do the same to the friend. I won't ever give out a person's number without having asked them first. Simply because I don't want people handing out my number. it's called respect. So do what you have to, and if you need to rant keep doing it.
Grrr! I hate that too. Same goes with messengers and the like. I purposely don't put them in my profile anymore because the one time I did, I had the weirdest people add me. I don't know why people feel the need to give out other's contact info because I can't imagine doing that myself.
I know some people try to justify it by claiming that the person they're giving out the info to is their significant other but to me, it is very wrong and rude. I never give out my friend's info to my fiance who is also a member on here. I think it's disrespectful to expect my friends to be friends with him just because he's with me. If he was friends with them and wanted to ask them for their contact info, he can ask them on his own.
Michelle
yeah i never do that. the easiest way out of that is to either bluntly say no i don't do that, or to day that you don't have the number on you. i think it's wrong to do such a thing. the only time i do give out such details is if i'm told to.
I personally have my number on the MSN phone thing. Nothing has happend. I also figgure if people want to find me, it is easy enough to do. I'm sure I'm in the phone book someware, and my name isn't hard to come across. As for giving out numbers to people here is how I handle it. If someone wants a phone number, e-mail, or MSN/AIM/Skype name of someone I know I say "Let me just check with them to be sure it is okay before I give out this information. I'd aprisheate it if others did the same. Ask before giving. Its commin curdisy.
John
Well lory, you may have to do what i did. change your number. That's exactly the reason barely anyone here has my number. i get ot know them for a long time before they ever get my number. As for that prick did that, i hope i never see them. and to the person that gave out the number, man, you got issues!
I just can't stand people that do that! I had a friend in High School who would do that all the time. I only let it happen once, because I told her right away that I didn't like her doing that and if she could ask me if it was ok before giving out my number. I think the best thing to do when someone asks for someone else's number is to tell them that you have to ask that person if it is ok with them for you to give it out.
This matter of people handing out my number pisses me off beyond belief. That's why only a select few have my number. That way I can keep tabs on those who have it that way if anyone else gets it without my permission. I'll know exactly who to track down for questioning. Those people know who you are that I'm speaking of if you came across this posting.
I've only had a friend give out my number one time. She knew that guy, and he apparently know som other people we knew, but anyway she had given him my number, or supposedly her mom had (because my friend thought I wouldn't mind.) So he had called, and although my mom, and then I had talked to him and found out where he got our number, or course we were surprised and somewhat nervous at first. But he had talked to us again at another time, and to me he seemed nice and was alright to talk to. Eventually, he had come over (maybe about 2 or 3 times) to help me with the computer and/or just to talk with me and my parents. He would call as well, but my parents are honestly not too crazy about him calling here and probably even coming over anymore, probably because neither of us really knew him at first in the first place, before he had first called. As for me, I don't mind talking to him once in awhile, but (no offense to him but) he's not the kind of friend I would easily feel comfortable being alone with or anything. He's nice and OK to talk to (now we chat or email on MSN IM once in awhile),, but honestly I guess it's the way we met and the fact that he's a more older man.
Aside from that, it had only happened that one time, so I'm happy for that. If I want a friend to pass my number to someone, it's someone we both know, and/or I will give them permission to do that, but only if the friend asked or of course if I asked them to give my number to the other person. If I want someone's contact info, I would expect them to first ask that other person for permission first. And if someone requested someone else's contact info from me, I would ask that other person first and let them know about the person wanting the information.
I hat that too that is so dead wrong. One thing that may work though is changing your number and if for some reason you have to call somebody you don't know, block your number. *67 works real good.
you know what i do?
i never anser the phone, check who is calling, and if i don't know the number, i won't call it.
i don't care who has my one anyway
I hate it. I've had to have my number changed a couple of toimes. The ones of you that have it are privledged lol
Wow, that crap is rude. You should tell your friends and family who obtain your number NOT to give it out. Otherwise it might happen. It is rude to give someone's number out even if they state it's not a big deal. But when you get desperatos like that they'll keep stalking you until you give in.
When I reunited with my friends from camp a decade later via the net, one kept pushing me for the entire address list of all the campers that were in my class. 3 pages worth and this list was oh say 6 years old. So of course people move, people are away in college etc. But still this one person wanted the list and I said no. Then he understood "Oh yeah that thing is 6 years old and people have moved or something.." But when he found out that I found two other campers via the net, he wanted their info as well. One camper said "Sure go ahead." while the other said "No, please don't." And the begger was desperate - even lazy to get the info on his own. I showed him how to locate people and it didn't work. So I said "Give me your info and I'll pass it onto Paul, if he agrees he'll contact you himself." He ended up doing that but Paul told me "I'm glad you didn't give him my info out. Because I prefer to keep my info private. I'm not sure if my info will be leaked out to other campers that I am uncomfortable around."
And then I had the same shit happen to me while at community college. I was giving my friend my number and this one stalker freak overheard. Claimed she gave it to him (lies as I know she didn't as she walked out the door with me and doesn't have classes with the freak.) and he kept calling and calling asking me if I wanted to go out on dates and such. It came close to me pulling a restraining order out on this guy and then filing a complaint to the campus security department for harassment as the guy would harass me while I was in the lab either studying, doing work or taking exams/tests. When he saw the harassment form in my hand he backed off big time as he's already been suspended for harassing many others.
my only advise is this:
Request that people not give your number out.
If it continues change your number.
Keep a log of when he calls and what the calls are about. You might have a case to file a restraining order.
If the harassment happens on campus then go to your advisor, complain and request for a form that he/she can help you fill out and submit to security.
If it's at work then file a complaint with your boss.
Thats the only advice I can give and I hope it'll help you. But from experience the only way you can get people off your back like this is by verbally telling them to. Not make up stories or anything. A simple "I'm not interested in dating at the momment." should do the trick. Because what if the person goes back to your friend and pumps he/she for answers about your love life? Then he'll call you back and the conversation could become agressive.
if its a cellphone number most phones have a feature that you can block a specific number. If its a house number don't know what to tell ya
My house number is in the phone book but I don't get any calls people wanting to date me, etc.
I only give my cell to people I know.
Troy
Yah, I usually don't like when other people give out info unless I say it's ok there's a girl I know and she gives out phone nubers to this chick that harasses people
Whatever information it is whether it be a cellphone number, house phone, your e mail address or whatever information you find personal to you, Don't say it to anyone. I saw some people put out there number on here, i think it's not a good idea cause your information will be spread out to everyone whether you like it or not, so if you don't want your stuff advertized to everyone then don't give it out to anyone who wants your number or better yet before giving any thing make sure you trust the person.
But, yeah, it's not cool to see some phone numbers spread out. It just shows how desperate a person can get.
yeah, I had a married man call me with the same bull... finally got rid of him though...
I was on the phone with a friend when this dam kid called asking for me! He told me that a friend had told him all about me! So I asked him what friend and he slammed down the fucking phone! Friends shouldn't give out a person's contact info without asking. I also hate the people who call asking for a person you don't know and they leave a message in your voice mail.
Yeah but they might have a wrong number. that's happened to me. as for the giving out the number thing, no. it isn't right.
Here's my advice on the matter.
1. Make sure you get a non published number. It depends on the company, but you can ask them how to get a non-published number.
2. Only give your number out to someone you trust.
3. Tell them to not give out your number without your ok.
4. This also goes with other contact info such as email and messenger. That's why I didn't put msn in my profile.
5. Never, ever, give anyone your address. Even if it's a good friend. It's far too dangerous. Also, don't giveout your last name, because you can be found in a phone book
I hope this advice helps..
Yah I agree with a lot of you. I would never share a number or even an e-mail address. I think its a matter of trust and I sure hope the ones that I chat with respect me enough to keep my stuff private as I would their's. Like a lot of you said, its respect, and trust.!
I remember one time and this made me mad. My 8 year old sister got a cellphone. This guy started texting and calling my sister's phone. He was talking about her being his girlfrind and other strange junk. Finally mom called him back and told him not to text or call her phone again. This is one of the reasons why kids shouldn't have a cell phone until they were about 16 or 17.
give a cell phone to an 8 year old kid is not really a good idea, even some adults can't figure out who they can trust enough to give their phone number, let alone a kid that age. my kids wont have a cell phone until they are at least 12 or 13, unless by the time i have kids cell phones will be able to warm up milk and change nappies, then maybe...
Oh I agree how do you give some one that is only 8 a cell phone that is crazy as zI said before trust and respect. No matter how angry I got at someone I would never ever share private stuff. that's bullshit and game playing!!
One thing that I'd never ever share is a password. Whether it be an email password, a messenger password, or any other password. I know one time when I had to give my mom my email password. I don't know if she still does it, but she could be hacking into my email. If someone wants your password, just say no!
I rarely give out shit.
Isn't a non published number expensive though?
Omgosh ... Who'd give an eight year old a cell?
I got a cell when I was nine, but I was only to take it on mobility lessons and every other time my parents kept it. Sure, I was mad, but it makes sense now.
And ... about giving out numbers; I know about that. Somehow, this girl named Roni at my school got my number ... And she gave it to someone I hate, who gave it to someone I hate even more (incidentally, both of them think I'm their friend), and she gave it to a totally blind perv who uses his blindness to feel people up ... And it got *everywhere*. Shudder.
I hate people like that.
I've never had anone give out my number, but I have had two of my friends give out my aim screen name to their friends. Now, I don't mind if people contact me, but to have some random person go "hi" "what's up with u?", that's not what I want. THey know not to do it again, I got pretty pysst at both of them when they did it. I'm seventeen, and one of my friends gave my aim s/n to an 11 year old. That just made me feel really creepy.
I hate to say it, but I only ever here of blindies breaching security like this. It makes me want to choke myself and at the same time thank my lucky stars for not becoming one of "them."
I refuse to give out numbers unless i know it is ok, I get a lot of people mad at me because of this and I also don't have them asking any more.
Oh hell! I remember when I was on this chat thing on the phone and this fucking dude gave out my number! God! Did that so piss me off! Hmm, as I was reading through these posts, I'm thinking to take off my msn contact info here, LOL let people ask me first.
I dont give out numbers unless I know it'll be all right. Usually the only people who ask me for numbers are people who know each other, and for the most part, those are people that we all went to school together, but like I said, I dont do it unless I know it's ok, and when in doubt, i check with the other person first. i've actually had that happen to me once, this guy who was supposed to be my friend was mad at me and gave my number out to this girl who I'd hardly even talked to at all. So one day she called me and left a message because I was in school, and I thought it was absolutely weird of her to call, so I didn't bother calling her back, it's not like she's my friend or anything! By the way, this girl was bi and extremely horny and weird. in her message she actually revieled that guy gave her my number, which was totally believable because she is really dumb and would do that. So then I went to the guy, supposed to be my friend, and asked him why the hell he gave my number out to her and he totally denyed it. Luckily i dont have that number anymore. She called a few times after that and I always told her I was busy if I didn't miss her call altogether. I think that is rude!
By the way, to the person who said only blind people do this, that is not true. it happens everywhere! This friend of mine who used to live with me was really good friends with this guy she'd met in her hometown through other friends. One day she was trying to call him using my house phone, which I didn't mind because I hardly used it! So she tries calling him and accidentally dials the wrong number, and this drunk guy answers, so she hangs up! Well i told her that wasn't right, and that she should have told him she got the wrong number, but she was imbarrassed, and is someone who's kind of shy at first, anyway. Well as it turns out, the asshole called back, and she answered and told him it was the wrong number, but the guy kept insisting on getting her name and wanting to know who she was. She hung up and he kept on calling, and we had to disconnect the phone that night.
The next day, he started again, and she, I, and my boy friend told him that it was a wrong number, would you please stop calling. My boy friend even threatened him with the police, but he was desperate! He kept on, until finally we had to get my boy friend's roommate to call him. To this day, I dont know what he told him, but he stopped calling.
One time i got this message from this guy it was really sweet, thanking someone for some present or something. Too bad he got the wrong number!
I hate people who call, especially telemarketters, or even those people who dont answer when you say hello. My grandma usually tells those people in Spanish, "Come Mierda", or "Eat shit." and hangs up.
Oh, and I'm extremely careful who I give my number too. I used to get on chatlines and i gave my number to people if I'd gotten to talk to them for some time and thought they'd be interesting to continue a friendship with, but since a couple of them really kept annoying me, I dont do that anymore. I dont really get on those things much anymore anyway. But one thing I really hate is people who keep calling everytime they think I'm available to talk! This goes for skype as well. This is why I'm almost always in "Not Available" or "Do Not Disturb", my favorite one, lol! I just hate botherers!
yikes, good thing I'm not much of a phone person.